According to him, Jason has been in 3 relationships and slept with more than 100 girls, but stopped counting because the number became meaningless.
Little did we know at the time that our Indonesian friends were secretly laughing at us. We were ten years older, hitting middle age, with beer-bellies, no hair and a bank account drained by a decade of fancy living we couldn’t afford. We e-mailed friends across the world, Iceland, London, Washington DC., all Jakarta alumni and they all told the same story: UB40, as the band name goes. Someone mentioned a 2000 movie called the ‘Tao of Steve,” which offered alluring promises.Not only does this feel better, but attracts more girls wanting to connect, and introduce him to their girlfriends.Jason’s teaching style focuses on not acting “fake” in order to pick up women.“There’s a hopefulness here compared to places like Boston or L. Women look for red flags, men look for green lights.But instead of blaming the place they live or other people, Minnesotans take personal responsibility for what they bring to the party.” The metro area is about the right size to balance variety with familiarity, he said: “In New York, where I’m from, I can go to a bar one Friday night and like the crowd, but the next Friday none of them will be back. It is a story of failure, defeat, but ultimately, in a cheesy way, redemption.
It is the story of how our stupid white male egos were crushed, trashed, and ultimately resurrected in a frail, but perhaps more lasting and real form.
Beyond such self-obvious platitudes were a plethora of little schemes, stratagems and tricks that ultimately just failed badly.
My buddy in DC tried the tricks at bars and nearly had security (doormen) called on him multiple times.
They were laughing at our vanity, how we got played, and the mercenary and cold nature of the women who approached us. Jakarta, like so many other global metropolises, is a place where people come to chase their dreams. The global financial crisis drove us both back to our home countries. We went back to either small towns or small corners of big cities. In vain, we tried to hit the local bars, replicating in our mind what were the successes of the previous decade. The Tao of Steve suggested there was a technique to the whole thing. We delved into the Internet and discovered an entire corpus of teachings on how to get babes, starting with You Tube with titles like “How to land the woman of your dreams.” Certain themes emerge from these Douchebag coaches.
Many of the girls we thought adored us were simply looking to trade up what they thought was a piece of the American or Australian dream after years of conditioning by movies and TV. Most of it you could’ve got from your Uncle (if you were lucky enough to have a functional one): be confident. Be chivalrous, even if feminist websites like tell you it’s dead and chauvinist.
In Minneapolis, you’re more likely to see the same people again.” Most of the show’s audiences fall between the ages of 35 and 55, with men skewing slightly older than women, but attendees range from early 20s to late 70s.